You’ve probably heard it before, that tone someone uses with a toddler who’s proudly showing off a scribble they call “art,” or a dog who’s finally managed to sit on command. It’s all exaggerated smiles, high-pitched praise, and a shower of “Wow, so great!” for something perfectly ordinary. Now, picture your boss using that same tone with you after you’ve submitted a routine report: “Amazing job! You’re such a rockstar!” for what was, let’s be honest, just another Tuesday.
That’s kid talking, and it’s sneaking into workplaces more often than we’d like. It’s when leaders or colleagues heap over-the-top enthusiasm onto everyday tasks in a way that feels better suited for a child or a pet than a capable adult. Sure, it’s usually meant to encourage, but it often leaves you feeling patronized, frustrated, and even slightly insulted. After all, you’re a professional, not a puppy.
So, why does kid talking rub us the wrong way? And what can we do about it, whether we’re the ones hearing it or (admit it) dishing it out? Let’s break it down.
What Exactly Is “Kid Talking”?
Kid talking is a communication style dripping with exaggerated praise and enthusiasm, often for tasks that don’t warrant it. You’ll spot it in phrases like:
“Wow, you crushed that email!”
“You’re a superstar for getting this done!”
“I’m so proud of you for hitting that deadline!”
The issue isn’t the praise itself, after all, everyone loves a pat on the back, it’s the delivery. When it’s overblown or feels like it’s straight out of a preschool playbook, it comes off as insincere and condescending. It’s like getting a gold star sticker for showing up, leaving you wondering if your real skills are even being noticed.
Why Kid Talking Is a Problem
Let’s cut to the chase, no one enjoys being talked down to.
Here’s why kid talking hits a nerve…
- It Feels Condescending: You’re not five, and you don’t need a cheer squad to do your job. When praise overshoots the mark, it can feel like your manager doesn’t trust you to handle real critique or respect your smarts.
- It Undermines Trust: Leadership hinges on authenticity. If praise sounds like it’s for show, like those forced smiles you’d give a kid to keep them happy, it makes you doubt everything else they say.
- It Kills Engagement: Young professionals crave recognition that matches their effort, not applause that feels performative. Over time, kid talking can push people to tune out, disengage, or even resent the source.
Why Do Leaders Do It?
Before we point fingers, let’s give leaders some grace.
Kid talking often stems from good intentions…
They Think It’s Motivating: Some managers believe constant hype lifts spirits, like an endless pep rally.
It’s a Habit: Parents might accidentally slip into “kid mode” at work without noticing.
They Want to Be Liked: In trying to seem approachable, they overdo it and end up sounding more like a cheerleader than a leader.
But here’s the catch: Good intentions don’t make it less annoying, or less harmful to their credibility.
For Young Professionals: How to Handle Kid Talking
If your manager’s got a case of kid talking, don’t lose hope. You can’t change their style overnight, but you can manage your response. Here’s how to keep your cool and stay professional.
1. Stay Calm and Redirect
When you hear, “Wow, you nailed this, it’s amazing!” resist the eye roll (we’ve all been there). Instead, pivot to something substantive such as….
“Thanks, I appreciate it. I’d love your take on how this fits into our broader goals.”
Glad you liked it! Any feedback on how I can level up for the next one?” This keeps things professional and nudges the conversation toward real value.
2. Address It Tactfully (If It’s Ongoing)
If kid talking won’t quit, raise it privately, but frame it constructively:
“I really value your encouragement, but I’ve noticed the feedback can feel a bit over-the-top. I’d love more specific input as it might help me grow faster.”
This shows you’re serious about your development, not just griping.
3. Model the Communication You Want
Lead by example. When you talk to your boss or peers, keep it clear, direct, and respectful. Your style might rub off over time. And if you ever lead others, show them what real, grounded communication looks like.
4. Don’t Take It Personally (Unless It’s Personal)
Often, kid talking is just a quirk, and your manager might not even clock it. Brush off the small stuff. But if it feels pointed or dismissive, tackle it head-on with the approach above.
For Leaders: Why Kid Talking Hurts Your Brand (and How to Fix It)
If you’re a leader wondering, “Do I do this?” relax; we’ve all over-enthused at some point. But here’s the kicker: Kid talking doesn’t just bug your team it dents your personal brand.
Here’s why:
- Perception Is Everything: Fake cheer might win over a toddler, but it pushes sharp professionals away. Your brand depends on trust and respect, kid talking erodes both.
- It Hints at Low Emotional Intelligence: Great leaders read the room. If you’re kid talking to adults, it suggests you’re missing how your tone lands.
Ready to ditch it? Here’s how to show enthusiasm without the cringe:
- Be Specific: Trade “Great job!” for “Your take on X really sharpened our approach here.” It proves you’re engaged and value their work.
- Match Your Audience: Adults want recognition that feels earned, not rah-rah hype. Save the big praise for big wins.
- Ask for Input: Want to connect? Try, “How do you like to get feedback?” It’s a small question with a big payoff.
- Keep It Real: Genuine excitement, tied to actual results, beats forced cheer every time. If you’re pumped, say it. If not, don’t fake it.
Quick Check: Before you kid talk, ask yourself… Would I say this to a peer I respect? If not, tweak it.
Let’s Raise the Bar on Workplace Communication
Workplace communication shouldn’t feel like a preschool pep talk, it should spark growth, trust, and real results. Young professionals, don’t settle for fake hype; push for feedback that fuels you. Leaders, skip the kid talk and lead with substance your team deserves it, and so does your reputation.
What’s your take? Have you ever faced kid talking or found a way to ditch it? Let’s swap notes below!
-Kenneth Doerksen
Disclaimer: The views expressed here are my own and do not reflect those of my employers, employees, or peers.
